This morning a colleague mentioned that he had just lost his 27 year old sister in law who committed suicide following a problematic marriage. A marriage that took place when two people fell in love and wanted to spend the rest of their lives together.
So what makes the relationship fall apart to the extent that one person is driven to take their own life?
We are all in relationships that need compromising. We all do. Is there a limit to this compromise? When can one say 'NO'?
A grown woman in a relationship for 25+ years and yet life is unstable. The husband wants his way with everything. Life has to run to his command and the wife who is nearing menopausal age with 2 grown up daughters agrees to it all. Why you might ask, well, life has seen plenty twists and turns, the wife has made many mistakes in life, mostly by giving up a career where she could have flourished. But at the time the thought of leaving behind her babies to be with nannies wasn't something she cared for, after that it just became a habit to stay at home. There have been plenty offers, some good, some not so good, but she didn't last anywhere for long. Hence, the financial dependence now doesn't allow her to be her own self.
The dominant nature of the husband, his insecurities about her has led her to contemplate suicide a number of times, yet she hasn't been able to. She is the kind to let others be her priority, she thinks of her old parents and her daughters and how their life will change if she ceases to exist and always rethinks her life. She has a roof over her head, food on the plate, loving, supportive parents and children, fun friends, what more can she ask for? Bypass the autocratic husband and life is certainly good! Someone somewhere has it worse, so committing suicide isn't an option.
Leave life to its own devices and you will get what you truly deserve, that's the way of Karma!
So what makes the relationship fall apart to the extent that one person is driven to take their own life?
We are all in relationships that need compromising. We all do. Is there a limit to this compromise? When can one say 'NO'?
A grown woman in a relationship for 25+ years and yet life is unstable. The husband wants his way with everything. Life has to run to his command and the wife who is nearing menopausal age with 2 grown up daughters agrees to it all. Why you might ask, well, life has seen plenty twists and turns, the wife has made many mistakes in life, mostly by giving up a career where she could have flourished. But at the time the thought of leaving behind her babies to be with nannies wasn't something she cared for, after that it just became a habit to stay at home. There have been plenty offers, some good, some not so good, but she didn't last anywhere for long. Hence, the financial dependence now doesn't allow her to be her own self.
The dominant nature of the husband, his insecurities about her has led her to contemplate suicide a number of times, yet she hasn't been able to. She is the kind to let others be her priority, she thinks of her old parents and her daughters and how their life will change if she ceases to exist and always rethinks her life. She has a roof over her head, food on the plate, loving, supportive parents and children, fun friends, what more can she ask for? Bypass the autocratic husband and life is certainly good! Someone somewhere has it worse, so committing suicide isn't an option.
Leave life to its own devices and you will get what you truly deserve, that's the way of Karma!
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